You’re your own person, right? Everything you say, do, feel, or think – it’s all going on with you and no one else. No matter how we might be influenced, our experiences and actions are not shared with others.
When you really think about it, everything that goes on inside our heads is untouched territory – as individuals, we are the only people who have any say about what goes on in there. At first thought, this might feel a little isolating, but instead, let this realization make you feel empowered! You’re in control! At the end of the day, you’re running the show, no matter what anyone else has to say about it.
And with this in mind, here’s a tip to help you maintain your happiness and optimism, regardless of what anyone else has to say about it:
Don’t give away your power to control your actions and emotions.
If something stressful happens, or someone tries to put you down, don’t give away your power!
If someone makes a snide remark, intentionally (or accidentally) does something that upsets you, or tries directly to make you feel bad, that is ON THEM. If you let these kinds of things get under your skin and dictate your reactions, your mood, etc., you have given away your power to control your own happiness.
Since you are your own master, shouldn’t that mean that you get to choose whether or not you let something upset you?
If someone’s foolish actions are starting to bother you, remember the role that your own choices play before you get upset. You have to acknowledge their behavior, and choose to let it affect the mood that you have control over.
When you can learn to hold on to that power over your own moods and actions, you gain a new sense of calm. You start to understand that you can deal with a situation or respond to a problem without letting yourself get out of control, that recognizing something that could make you angry and getting angry are two very different things.
Holding onto this power over your own mood is essential living a happy life. There will always be stressful situations and people who bother you – that you cannot control – but you can control how you react to them. Don’t let outside forces strip you of your power to be happy – your happiness is up to you and you alone!