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I think a lot of people don’t know what it is to do a reading with me.

Croix volunteered to share his experience and what he got out of it …

“It’s a recalibration of what’s going on in your life.

You got into my brain and my heart and soul.

I just had this unexplainable peace. A peace with certainty about what’s going to happen and where my life is going. (be sure to watch at the 3:56 mark to hear Croix talk about this peace he felt)

It was as if we were going through a forest and you cut down all the woods in front of me so I could take a clear walking path.”

When Croix left he shared this message with everyone on Facebook:

It was time to say goodbye to Lisa, one of my dearest friends in the entire world 🌎. She is my spiritual advisor, my angel reader, my divine connection to the collective consciousness, God and the universe. One of the very very very few in the world I trust with my unconscious mind and my most private challenges. She may be an angel reader, but to me she is the angel.

Lisa is also a fellow professional speaker. We both started our speaking careers in the same Connecticut Toastmasters club 10+ years ago and have been friends, peers and advisors ever since.

Thank You! Thank you! Thank you!

Thank you Lisa and David for allowing me to crash at you extraordinary home for a lot longer than we originally thought. Just being there and around you was just the spiritual medicine I needed to transition from a life with a home to a life on the road. I can’t express how much a visit with you did for me.

Dave it was great to get to know you so much better and watch the games with you. I have the right color iPhone case to prove it. 😆

You weren’t just a stop in my journey, you both are an imprint on my life’s journey.

Until our paths cross again.
Love you both.

PS,
In case you are wondering, yes that is all my belongings in my car and the driveway.

We miss him already!

Love and Blessings,

 

 

 

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A big part of leading a life of happiness is being able to stick to your guns when you need to, and not bending over backwards just to be a people pleaser.

Now, this does NOT mean refusing to help others, being unkind, or anything of the sort – there’s nothing wrong with pleasing others. The problems happen when your concern for pleasing others comes at the expense of your own principles, your own happiness, or gets in the way of other things you need to accomplish for your own life.

The unfortunate reality is that there will always be people who try to take advantage of others (and some people who will without even realizing it), and if you allow yourself to be manipulated – sometimes by your own internal desire for acceptance – you’ll eventually be doing so many things for others, you stop paying attention to your own needs.

It’s fulfilling to help others, but can be very stressful to allow others to demand support from you. It’s all about making choices that satisfy the greatest good – helping others should not become such a burden that it impacts your ability to live a happy life.

Similarly, a pattern of “people pleasing” may prevent you from speaking out in opposition to something you disagree with – and if you’re not standing up for what you believe in, it’s going to take a toll on your self-worth. Staying close-mouthed just to avoid rocking the boat will ultimately turn into regret.

It should go without saying that upsetting people on purpose is NOT the path to personal happiness – but being prepared to navigate a situation where you can’t please everyone (and not feeling guilty about it) will go a long way in helping you keep your head held high, even when you have to be the bearer of bad news.

The best approach is to strike a balance between what’s good for you and what’s good for the people around you. Total selfishness is not the answer, obviously, but neither is letting yourself become a doormat.

Making The Same Mistakes

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There’s that old saying about taking the same actions over and over, but expecting different results. While that expression is generally used as a “definition for insanity,” I think we can look at the same issue in terms of happiness – and find just as many problems.

Think about people who really struggle to find happiness. One of the defining characteristics in a life of stress, anxiety, and unhappiness is repeat behavior – and consistently unpleasant results.

People allow themselves to stay in toxic relationships or work jobs that wear them down day after day. They spend time with people who damage their self-esteem, make consistently poor choices when it comes to food and exercise, and take on responsibilities that cause undue stress without any sort of satisfaction.

All of those behaviors are just like the “definition of insanity” mentioned above – it’s maintaining a cycle of behavior, but somehow expecting the outcome to change for the better.

Of course people want to be happy, but when their decisions and actions consistently prevent some of the basic needs for happiness – what do they expect?

Does this sound familiar? We’ve all got bad habits that can act as roadblocks to our happiness, and it’s up to use to identify them, figure out ways to change them, and move well past the barriers we set up for ourselves.

Small changes can often bring us closer and closer to a life of happiness and fulfillment, but those changes have to stick! We can’t keep making the same mistakes over and over again – otherwise we’ll never make any progress at all!

Instead of just going through the same motions day after day, we should all be looking for the decisions and actions that are responsible for our feelings of unhappiness. After all, basically everything we do is a choice – from the people we spend time with to what we do at any given moment throughout the day. We’re constantly making choices, so why keep making the decisions that ultimately lead to unhappiness?

We can break out of these cycles, and we absolutely should do everything in our power to get away from damaging decision making. Making consistently dissatisfying choices is a fast track to unhappiness – and the very definition of “insanity!”

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So many of us think that happiness comes from accomplishments, monetary success, a star-studded career – all products of hard work and the climbing of various social ladders – and while these things can be fulfilling, they might be taking us away from other important components of happy life, namely our friends and families.

Studies show that personal relationships really do have some of the largest impact on overall happiness, as well longevity. Not spending enough time with loved ones was one of the most common regrets listed by people on their deathbeds, according to The Top Five Regrets of Dying by Bronnie Ware.

Compared to social status, wealth, and career achievements, having strong relationships with close friends and family has much, much larger impact on overall happiness. Harvard Psychology Professor Dan Gilbert says, “We are happy when he have family, we are happy when we have friends, and almost all the other things we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends.”

This is a pretty stark reminder that maybe all of the attention we give to career goals and other “paths to happiness” are less important than we think, and we should be taking the time out of our busy lives to stay connected to the people that matter most.

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If you want to be happy, make others happy.

That seems counterintuitive and oversimplified, right? What does the happiness of others have anything to do with the amount of happiness you experience on a personal level?

Quite a bit, it turns out!

Putting effort into improving the lives others, in fact, is one of the most direct and measurably effective ways at increasing levels of happiness in ourselves, from giving gifts and spending money on friends, to volunteering for a charity or simply helping a stranger on the street.

Psychologist, author, and happiness expert Martin Seligman says, “…we scientists have found that doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.”

Our own experiences support this, if you think about it – doesn’t watching a loved one open a gift fill you with joy? Doesn’t the money spent on an event with people you care about yield more happiness than simply buying an object for yourself?

Simply doing good, engaging in altruistic behavior that somehow brightens the day of another person, makes you feel good about yourself. These boosts to your self esteem, your perceived sense of self-importance, your understanding of the impact you have on the world around you, even your sense of community with the people around you – all of these serve to make you happier.

People who volunteer (including kids and young adults) gain levels of self-esteem and happiness that remain present outside of the acts of kindness, and become a permanent state of improved well-being!

It’s almost as if you reward yourself for helping others with a more positive view of the world (and your place in it) – and this makes perfect sense! When you can make someone else’s life better, shouldn’t you feel great about it?

So there you have it, a sure fire way to boost your own happiness while making the world a better place. If you want to make your own life better, make someone else’s life better!

There are volunteer opportunities around every corner, and people all around you could use a kind word, help with a project, some friendly advice, even just the pleasure of your company.

Now roll up your sleeves and get out there to lend a helping hand!

An Experiment In Gratitude

What makes you happy? Have you ever thought about what exactly it is?

Recently, psychologists have scientifically proven that one of the greatest contributing factors to overall happiness in your life is how much gratitude you show. The SoulPancake team decided that it would be a great idea to test this out.

They began by gauging the happiness of a group of volunteers before asking them to think of someone who was truly influential and important in their lives. The volunteers then wrote down as much as they could about why this person was so important. After this moment is when the true experiment took shape.

SoulPancake gave the volunteers a telephone and had them call up the person they had written about. Each person read his or her statement directly to whoever they had found most important; the reactions were extraordinary. Tears were shed, laughing erupted, and a few people got the chance to reconnect with friends and family they had been separated from by time and distance.

One volunteer, breaking down crying, read aloud, “Erica is my older sister and my best friend. Sometimes it even feels like we are twins. She is my number one fan and my number one supporter. She makes me happy because despite all my mistakes and all my decisions, she still loves me no matter what. I will never forget when she flew three thousand miles at the drop of a phone call to save me from a breakup.” The immense feeling behind this display of gratitude was palpable and the sisters’ connection shined through, even over the phone.

After the phone calls, one final aspect of the experiment remained: testing the volunteers’ happiness levels a second time. Rewording the test so they weren’t aware it was the same thing, host Julian notes that, even for the few individuals who could not reach the object of their gratitude, happiness levels increased between 2 and 4%. Simply thinking about and writing these notions down made a small difference.

However, the volunteers who got to express themselves personally found increases of happiness between 4 and 19%, a substantial difference.

The most notable finding was that the person who walked in with the lowest happiness levels had the biggest jump after the experiment. What you can take away from this is that, if you’re having a particularly down day, or a really tough time, trying this exercise in gratitude will more than likely have a great impact on you.

So, show your gratitude to someone important in your life, someone who deserves it. You’ll both feel better off. It’s scientifically proven!

I’ve put together twelve tips for putting the “HAPPY” back into Your “HAPPY HOLIDAYS” after the loss of a loved one. Check out my SEVENTH tip: Party! Surround yourself with friends and family so you can talk about your lost loved one in comfort. Celebrate their life while enjoying your holiday season.

Living a Life of Enchantment

This past week my husband, David, and I stayed two nights in Sedona, Arizona. I had never been to Sedona before and was completely blown away by the beauty, magnificence and especially by the power that exuded from the stunning red rocks that surrounded the town.

What made the stay even lovelier was the fact that we lodged at the Enchantment Resort. Check out the view from the pool, absolutely spectacular!

Besides having breathtaking scenery the Enchantment Resort was a wonderland of spiritual activities. Throughout the day they offered a variety of free events that you could participate in which included a morning intention ritual in the Crystal Grotto, an evening guided mediation, a Vortex lecture and walk as well as guided hiking tours to connect you to the earth. I found the staff and the entire facility to be warm, and welcoming. While I sat at the pool enjoying the views and the serenity, I could hear notes from a Native American flute wafting through the air. Apparently one of the locals likes to hike up to the Kachina Woman Vortex to play his flute for all to enjoy.

David and I signed up for the hiking tour, which was from 9 – 11:30am. Our guide, Jamie picked us up, along with three other charming guests, and drove us into town to a parking lot for one of the local plumbers. Apparently there are trailheads all throughout the town. We were a bit skeptical at first, but after about two minutes of walking on the trail we never saw any sign of town for the next 2.5 hours.  The hike was life affirming and not just because of the scenery and the wildlife we saw, which included a Peregrine falcon and the scat from a bobcat, but because of the amazing conversation I had with Jamie.

Jamie grew up in Flagstaff, not far from Sedona, and she followed her parent’s direction and advice by graduating college and then receiving her master’s degree in education. However after she completed her studies she felt she had “done her duty” and that it was time to follow her true desires and passions. She is now leading hikes and as I understand it she is in charge of two departments at The Enchantment Resort. What I loved about her story is that she said with great enthusiasm, “I love my job! Even though a lot of my friends think I’m nuts, I don’t care, because I’m so happy!” Every six months she gets 3 weeks off, so she travels the world. She just returned from New Zealand and cant wait to go back.

Well, all I can say is that Jamie’s story is a perfect example of the Art of Living Happy! It was so exciting to bear witness to another person living the life of their dreams.

My question to you – are you an example of the Art of Living Happy? If you are living a happy life share what you are doing and why you love it so much. If you aren’t living a happy life, tell me why and what you wish you were doing. Maybe we can figure out how to help you achieve your goal! Either way leave a comment and let’s start the conversation.

Love and Blessings,
~Lisa

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Wow, Day 11! I am so excited to welcome YOU here today.

(If you just arrived here, and it’s Day 11, no worries, just click here and you can start on Day 1. If you would like more information about what Soul Coaching® is, click here, and to learn how to get the most out of this 28 day program, click here. The best part is that this class will be available to look at 24/7! So you can come back and re-do a day, or start this 28 day program anytime!)

Today is all about exploring your relationships with other people. It’s amazing what you discover when you actually take the time to step back from a situation and start analyzing it rather than merely reacting to it out of habit.

 

Years ago I had a “friend” who always called me when she had time to kill, like when she had just dropped her son at a piano lesson. She would tell me all about her day, her problems and ask me for advice on her issues. Then, just as I would start to share something about myself, she’d say, “Oh sorry Lisa, but my son has just finished his lesson, I’ve got to go! Bye.”  This went on for quite some time, and since I was raised to be a good girl (weren’t we all? Love you, Mom!) I found I couldn’t work up the nerve to tell her I was hurt by her actions.   After a lot of pent up frustration on my part, I wrote her a letter, and told her that I no longer wanted to be friends, which in retrospect was a pretty drastic measure! Fortunately, she had moved away, so the “break up” wasn’t that difficult. What I learned from this experience was that I was allowing her to treat me this way, and that what I needed to do was to be up front and honest (in a nice way) with her at the time of the event rather than harbor resentment. I still work on this issue, but being aware of it is half the battle.

I’d love to hear about your discoveries and experiences in your relationships! Blessings to you, Lisa

Water: Day 11 – Exploring Your Relationships

 

 

The way we know that we exist is through relationships.  We have a relationship with our mother and father when we are born; then later with our family, our friends, and our co-workers.  We also have a relationship with animals; the elements of nature: rocks, sky, rain, and fire; and with the Creator.  We have relationships with household objects: our car, computer, food, and even money and sex.  And ultimately the way you relate to every person, object, and thing is a reflection of the way that you relate to yourself.

 

When you begin to examine your relationships, you may find that the way you relate to the world around you is a reflection of the way that others related with you when you were a child.  If your parents were critical of you, you might have a tendency to be critical of others.  Your parents, however, are not to blame.  They related to you the way that their parents related to them, and so on.

 

The way you relate with others and experience life is usually:

1.  A reflection of the core beliefs that you have about life, or

2.  A reflection of the way people related to you when you were young, or

3.  A projection or a mirror of the qualities you don’t accept or you suppress within yourself.

 

Taking time to examine your relationships helps you to understand and unweave negative relationship patterns.

 

Affirm Affirmation for the Day:I love deeply and fully and I am loved deeply and fully or …  I am loved and loveable.

 

Today: Choose another area of your home to clean.  If you don’t know where to start, bedrooms, bedroom closets, and bathrooms are a good place.  Clean that corner you haven’t cleaned since you moved in.  While you clean, do affirmations, such as, “As I clean, I am creating the space for new opportunities to flow my way.”

Level 1:  How Do You Relate to the World?

 

Today, be aware of the way that you relate to the world around you and notice if there are any recurring emotional patterns.

 

For example, on the 28-day program Marion noticed that she had a recurring pattern of constantly protecting herself.  She wasn’t authentic with people because she was protecting herself from their potential judgments.  The pattern was repeated in other areas of her life.  For example, she always checked several times to make sure that her car and her house were locked.  She also backed up every computer file three times and stored them in three different places.

 

The first step in the journey to your soul is telling the truth about where you are.  Once you begin to notice your recurring emotional patterns, begin to accept them and even love them.  They have brought you to where you are now, and you have grown spiritually through having them.

 

The next step is to be willing to change those patterns.  Patterns come from inner rules about life … and inner rules are based on beliefs.  And beliefs can be changed!  To change your beliefs, create an affirmation that you repeat over and over such as, “I am willing to release this pattern of… (protection) and accept that I am … (safe and protected)!”  An affirmation that is mumbled, routinely droned, or lazily chanted, doesn’t change anything.  An affirmation that is shouted, or visualized with emotional intensity, or said out loud with passionate body movements, can and will change your life.

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I just received an email from Cara Yowell – “The Queen of Metaphysics”.  She explains how to write yourself an abundance check in order to bring “more” into your life, whether its money, friends, a new special someone or anything that you want to expand in your life.  As the New Moon is tomorrow, I thought I’d share with you her instructions:  Enjoy!

The New Moon is on July 11, 2010…but it is no ordinary New Moon!  It comes along with a Solar Eclipse, making it especially powerful to begin new projects, rise to the challenge, and take on commitments.

Abundance Check Ritual in the New Moon

This ritual has been handed down through so many people that its origin has become unknown.

What are Abundance Checks?

Abundance checks are a tool we can use to create more abundance in our lives. They are written within 24 hours after a New Moon. Surprisingly, you really don’t even need to believe that the check will work when you write it. You will however be amazed at the results, as you will see increased abundance in your life, in some life area. It is not always financial, but certainly in an area that you need.

There is a traditional manner, which has been handed down, that must be followed. If you do not have a checking account you can draw a check on a piece of paper and fill it out the same way -the results will be the same, more abundance for you.

How To Write Your Abundance Check:

1.) Within 24 hours after a New Moon, take a check from your check book. Where it says “Pay to,” write your name.

2.) In the little box on the same line where you would fill in a dollar amount write “Paid in full.”

3.) On the line underneath your name, where you would write out a dollar amount, write “Paid in full.”

4.) Sign the check: “The Law of Abundance”

Do not put a date on the check. Do not write a specific dollar amount in the check. Put it in a safe place and forget about it. The Universe will take it from there.

Many people are skeptical about trying this until they do it. After the first time they realize the power of these checks and do them routinely every month! Try it yourself and see!

If you enjoy this little experiment, do it for the next three New Moons and see what happens.

HERE’S A DEFINITION OF ABUNDANCE FOR YOU:

“True prosperity is not measured in terms of palaces, servants,
cars, chauffeurs, fur coats and real estate, but in achievement,
contentment,confidence, freedom, inspiration, beauty; in a clear
conscious, abounding health and energy, rich thoughts and deep
awareness; in harmonious relationships with others, love and
devotion of friends,guidance in times of uncertainty, courage
in the presence of fear,protection in the midst of danger, and
peace of mind; and in the sense of joy that comes from the
realization that God(the Universe)is instant and unfailing Supply.”

—Dr. Robert Russell