Feng shui (pronounced: fung shway) has made my life happy, healthy and wealthy!  I had never even heard of it before I attended a free class about it entitled, “Feng Shui”, on June 18, 2003 at the Gilda’s Club of Seattle.  That summer our family had flown from Connecticut to Seattle, Washington so my husband, Ian, could undergoing a series of two bone marrow transplants to treat his lymphoma cancer.  We lived in a Marriott hotel for over seven months.  Needless to say, the educational lectures offered at Gilda’s Club of Seattle, like this feng shui class, as well as all the other free activities that they provided; yoga, Tai Chi, pilates and the wellness groups were life savers for me and my children as we faced the struggles of cancer within our family.

My Feng Shui Garden

“Feng Shui” was hosted by Kate Austin, a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner.  She gave a very informative talk about the basics of feng shui.  Overall feng shui is an energy management system.  The idea is that you want to organize the energy in every room and make the energy in your home support you.

One of the ideas Kate gave was to cover the mirrors and televisions in the bed rooms at night.  Mirrors and televisions give off a lot of energy and by covering them it slows the energy down.  I did this in the hotel room and found I slept much better.  I also noticed that the kids went to sleep much faster!

The book Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life : How to Use Feng Shui to Get Love, Money, Respect and Happinessby Karen Rauch Carter was recommended by Kate.  I immediately ordered one from Amazon – you can buy yours by clicking the link above or by clicking the picture of the book at the end of my blog. I have found this book to be the most fun, easy to read book about feng shui on the market.  I can’t tell you how many of these books I have given to my friends and family.  If all you do with feng shui is buy this book, I guarantee your life will improve in every area that you put focus on.

Kate also recommended the East West Bookshop to buy feng shui cures, which are items that help enhance the energy in each area of your home.  As I drove there, I didn’t have the address, but I knew the book store was on Roosevelt.  I asked my angels for help with the cross street – 85th popped into my head…  I went there and it turned out to be a tile shop, hmmm.  I asked my angels again, and this time I heard 65th street.  I drove there and sure enough this time they were right.

I went there specifically to find some purple amethyst, for the prosperity section, and a cure for the health section.  I immediately found a beautiful piece of purple amethyst but then spent an hour looking for something either square, earth tone in color or something with a sun and a moon on it.  These characteristics are all good cures for the health section of your home.  Plants are really good for the health area, but due to Ian’s illness we couldn’t have live plants in his presence.  I finally asked the clerk if she had any ideas for the items I was looking for.  She said, “You should try the tile shop on 85th street.”  Oh my goodness, I was just there!

I purchased my amethyst and drove to the tile shop.    I walked in and immediately found two terracotta tiles (earth tone colors and made of earth products) and one had a yellow moon and the other had a yellow sun (the sun, moon and the color yellow are all perfect for the health section)!  It seems as though the angels were pointing me in the right direction after all.

The other ironic event that occurred – or it was just the feng shui working fabulously – was that once I returned to the hotel and placed the purple amethyst in the prosperity section I went to get the mail and there was a $500 check – totally unexpected!  Gotta LOVE feng shui.

Happiness is learning how to talk to your angels. This is my thought, anyway.  If it weren’t for my angels, I don’t know if I would have survived my first husband, Ian’s, seven year battle with lymphoma cancer and his ultimate death at the age of 44, in early 2004 – I was 37.

My Angels

The idea of talking to my angels was introduced to me by Alice Tice, a sweet nurturing person who I had gone to see for a massage soon after my husband had been diagnosed in the spring of 1997.

(Wow!  As I was sitting here writing this blog, I was trying to remember Alice’s name – it’s been 12 years since I’ve had contact with her – then BAM it just popped into my head.  I was able to verified her name by looking at the Reiki certificate I received from her – thanks Angels!!!)

Anyway, as I was getting my massage with Alice I broke down in tears and confessed to her about my plight with Ian.  She tenderly wiped the tears from my eyes and said, “Well, you better start asking your angels for help.”  Her statement broke the tension in the room, as I nervously snickered about her comment and maybe even rolled my eyes – I thought she was talking crazy talk!  Alice went on to tell me how she talks to her angels for help with everything in her life, even for small items, like helping her to find front row parking places and how she asks the angels to cloak her car when she is speeding.

That’s when I started to really listen to what she was saying.  My whole life, even as a child, I’ve had a sixth sense about police cars being around the next bend, holding a radar gun.  As I’m driving, or with someone in a car, I’ll suddenly think, “There’s a police car around.”  Sure enough, every time I get that feeling I begin to slow down and lo and behold there is the police car!  I had never given this phenomenon much thought until Alice was talking about angels.  Maybe Angels were whispering in my ear and giving me this information.

After this enlightening conversation I was eager to try out talking with my new found friends – my angels.  I was flabbergasted!  I lived in a town where getting a parking spot is almost impossible.  As soon as I would ask for  a front row space, I’d drive around the corner and there would be someone backing out of a spot – right in the front row.  I really couldn’t believe it, but I did continue to ask for their help for both big and small issues.  I also didn’t mention this to most people, as I still thought it was a little crazy.

Fast forward five years to when Ian’s cancer started to get really bad again.  I went to lunch with my friend, Lisa.  (The same friend whose husband also died from cancer two weeks after Ian, and then months later introduced me to – David Jones, the love of my life and my current husband – the man that took over her husband’s job as the local golf pro.  Read more about that here.)

Lisa suggested that we go down the street to Touch of Sedona, a new age store in town, to have an Angel reading done.  Even though I had been asking my Angels for help with the issues of my life this Angel reading blew me out of the water.  I asked her how she talked to the Angels and she recommended the book: Angelspeake: How to Talk With Your Angels I purchased the book and my life has never been the same – in a very, very good way.  During the last two years of Ian’s life, I would take time to sit and listen to my angels and write down what they had to say, they were always so supportive and helpful.

Here is an entry from my journal on February 21, 2004:

Dear Angels, Will Ian be able to help me tell the children about his upcoming death?

Dearest Lisa,

Yes, be calm and relax, Ian will be able to have a moment where he is lucid and caring and compassionate toward his children – he has finally accepted his fate but still has some unfinished business to attend to  – like talking with his children.  Do not despair Lisa, Ian is on a path of greater good and happiness.

His earthly body will be left behind and he will never be in pain or have to suffer again.  And yes, he will still be a part of your everyday life.  He will live on within you – the only thing you won’t have is his physical presence, though you may even feel that at times.  There is just so much that the human life form doesn’t understand and yet if we were to try to explain it to you it would be overwhelming and inconceivable – so its best just not to go there.

We are with you, Lisa, we are with Ian – he is surrounded by love and graciousness.  When he is done with his tasks, which will be soon, he will be ready to take the first step into his next journey.  Lisa, now is the time to take care of yourself.  Be there for Ian, but he has a lot of people helping him now, both earthly and otherwise.  So time to lay down and get some rest and be ready for what tomorrow brings.  We love you, Your Angels.

Ian died the next day.

Angelspeake: How to Talk With Your Angels is a very well written life transforming book.  I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and working with Trudy Giswold at one of her seminars.  Trudy is a down to earth, compassionate, loving person.  She explains in the book, which was written by her and her sister (who has since passed away), that the Angels came to them  in their sleep and asked them to believe and to write a book so that people could connect with their angels.

On page 17 of the book, “You may ask, ‘Why would anyone want to talk to their angels?’  In learning this process of connecting with your angels you will also learn of the many dimensions of love and support that are available to you.  You are a spiritual being currently having a physical experience on earth.  This book has been written to teach you to communicate with your angels through writing, in order to reconnect your spiritual and physical selves.”


I also recommend:

The Angelspeake Book Of Prayer And Healing
I really enjoyed this book as it took you to the next level of communicating with your angels after reading their first book.  There are many first hand stories about people talking to their angels – which was instructive and interesting reading.   Trudy and Barbara also did an excellent job of explaining how prayers work – and sometimes why are prayers aren’t answered.  This book “will help you create a new level of intimacy with your angels culminating in a lasting, healing, and personal union.” page 21


Your Intuition is the Guide to an Amazing Life

My first husband passed away in February of 2004 after a seven year battle with lymphoma cancer.  Two nights before Ian died, we had the most amazing conversation, and he told me all of his hopes and dreams for our two children, Jenna, who was 10 and Robbie who was 8.  He asked me to buy the The Lord of the Rings – The Motion Picture Trilogy Platinum Series Special Extended Edition for the kids.  He was a HUGE Lord of the Rings fan, and he wanted to share this with his children.  He also told me to go and find someone to love.  He asked me to find someone that would love our children and raise them as his own.  Ian couldn’t have given me a better gift.  After he died, I made a list.  I made a list of the things I was looking for in a new love.

After a month or two of shuffling around and not knowing up from down, I prayed to God and asked for the following:

Someone to love

Someone who loved the children

Someone who loved me

Someone with no baggage, who had never been married and had no kids

Someone with a secure job that he enjoyed

I know I was asking A LOT!  I had kids, a ton of baggage, and I’d already been married.  What could I have been thinking?

Four months later, I hit the jackpot!  My friend Lisa, who also lost her first husband to cancer, invited me to go out for drinks.  It was the first time I had been out with a girlfriend since Ian had passed.  Lisa’s new husband, Stan, was the golf pro at the local private club in our town.  As Lisa and I were sipping our martinis she said, “Hey, the new golf pro is here .  Do you want to meet him?”  I took another sip of my martini and replied, “Sure, why not?”

Little did I know that when I turned around on my bar stool, I would almost fall off.  This was not because I was tipsy, but because when I looked into David Jones’ eyes and shook his hand, my whole world was rocked.  I knew instantly that this man was someone special, and that I was going to marry him!

This reminded me of the day I started my job at Price Waterhouse in San Francisco in 1989.  I had just graduated college in Denver, and I went to start my career as a CPA.  I was NOT going to date anyone – not until Ian Sharpe walked through the door of the conference room.   My first thought was, “Now, there is a guy I could marry!”  We were married two and a half years later.

David, called me the next day, and we met for a drink.  It turned out his father had passed away of cancer  just 6 weeks before Ian had died.  David had flown home to Ireland to help care for his father.  His sister had lost her husband to a heart attack almost a year prior and was left with 5 young children.  Our entire first date was spent talking about death.  It was the most amazing date!   Who else could have understood what I had gone through than someone who had recently been a caregiver himself.

I looked at my list:

Someone to love – how could I not?  The Irish brogue and the blue eyes!  We were married 2-25-2006

Someone who loved the children – David always wanted children, but never wanted to do the “baby thing”.  He also had always wanted a son named Robert (after Bobby Jones the golfer).  Robert is our son’s name!  David voluntarily adopted the children on May 15, 2007.

Someone who loved me – he does!

Someone with no baggage – at age 39, David had never been married, and he had no kids

Someone with a secure job that he enjoyed – David is a golf pro at the local country club and loves his job.  Golf is his passion.

Not only did he fit every criteria on my list, he is sweet, passionate, caring and handy around the house!

I followed my intuition both times.  Meeting and marrying Ian and having almost twelve married years together was such a sweet and wonderful time in my life.  I obviously had a rough time with his illness and passing, but he gave me my two treasured children.  And yes, I met David very soon after Ian’s death, but it was right.  Since Ian, Stan and David’s father all arrived in heaven at around the same time and knew either David or me, I’m convinced that over a few pints of beer together they plotted a way for David and I to meet.  Well, guys – I want to thank you because I’ve never been happier!!!  Cheers!