Making The Same Mistakes

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There’s that old saying about taking the same actions over and over, but expecting different results. While that expression is generally used as a “definition for insanity,” I think we can look at the same issue in terms of happiness – and find just as many problems.

Think about people who really struggle to find happiness. One of the defining characteristics in a life of stress, anxiety, and unhappiness is repeat behavior – and consistently unpleasant results.

People allow themselves to stay in toxic relationships or work jobs that wear them down day after day. They spend time with people who damage their self-esteem, make consistently poor choices when it comes to food and exercise, and take on responsibilities that cause undue stress without any sort of satisfaction.

All of those behaviors are just like the “definition of insanity” mentioned above – it’s maintaining a cycle of behavior, but somehow expecting the outcome to change for the better.

Of course people want to be happy, but when their decisions and actions consistently prevent some of the basic needs for happiness – what do they expect?

Does this sound familiar? We’ve all got bad habits that can act as roadblocks to our happiness, and it’s up to use to identify them, figure out ways to change them, and move well past the barriers we set up for ourselves.

Small changes can often bring us closer and closer to a life of happiness and fulfillment, but those changes have to stick! We can’t keep making the same mistakes over and over again – otherwise we’ll never make any progress at all!

Instead of just going through the same motions day after day, we should all be looking for the decisions and actions that are responsible for our feelings of unhappiness. After all, basically everything we do is a choice – from the people we spend time with to what we do at any given moment throughout the day. We’re constantly making choices, so why keep making the decisions that ultimately lead to unhappiness?

We can break out of these cycles, and we absolutely should do everything in our power to get away from damaging decision making. Making consistently dissatisfying choices is a fast track to unhappiness – and the very definition of “insanity!”

Don’t Give Away Your Power

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You’re your own person, right? Everything you say, do, feel, or think – it’s all going on with you and no one else. No matter how we might be influenced, our experiences and actions are not shared with others.

When you really think about it, everything that goes on inside our heads is untouched territory – as individuals, we are the only people who have any say about what goes on in there. At first thought, this might feel a little isolating, but instead, let this realization make you feel empowered! You’re in control! At the end of the day, you’re running the show, no matter what anyone else has to say about it.

And with this in mind, here’s a tip to help you maintain your happiness and optimism, regardless of what anyone else has to say about it:

Don’t give away your power to control your actions and emotions.

If something stressful happens, or someone tries to put you down, don’t give away your power!

If someone makes a snide remark, intentionally (or accidentally) does something that upsets you, or tries directly to make you feel bad, that is ON THEM. If you let these kinds of things get under your skin and dictate your reactions, your mood, etc., you have given away your power to control your own happiness.

Since you are your own master, shouldn’t that mean that you get to choose whether or not you let something upset you?

If someone’s foolish actions are starting to bother you, remember the role that your own choices play before you get upset. You have to acknowledge their behavior, and choose to let it affect the mood that you have control over.

When you can learn to hold on to that power over your own moods and actions, you gain a new sense of calm. You start to understand that you can deal with a situation or respond to a problem without letting yourself get out of control, that recognizing something that could make you angry and getting angry are two very different things.

Holding onto this power over your own mood is essential living a happy life. There will always be stressful situations and people who bother you – that you cannot control – but you can control how you react to them. Don’t let outside forces strip you of your power to be happy – your happiness is up to you and you alone!

I’ve put together twelve tips for putting the “HAPPY” back into Your “HAPPY HOLIDAYS” after the loss of a loved one. Check out my TWELFTH tip:

Do something good for someone else in honor of your loved one! Something so simple can make you feel great and connected with the loves that you’ve lost. For some tips on how to spread the Christmas cheer check out my video here:

Mystic Chef Meadow Linn

The other day I had the amazing opportunity to interview Meadow Linn about her new book, The Mystic Chef. She and her mother, Denise Linn co-authored this beautiful piece of work which was released in December of 2012. After receiving my copy as a Christmas gift, I was compelled to reach out to Meadow to discuss with her how she and her mom came up with the idea of not only writing a book filled with delicious recipes, but writing a “cookbook for life” – which is how Meadow describes it in our interview.

Meadow and I had so much fun catching up, as the last time we had seen each other was on the fun-filled Hay House cruise which sailed the Caribbean back in January of 2011. Enjoy the video, and be sure to buy your own copy by clicking on the link below the video.

HAPPY cooking!

~Blessings, Lisa

Today, I took a leap of faith and went for my big makeover!  You can check out the video and see for yourself.  I would love your comments!

Going through the process of quitting my hedge fund accounting job and devoting all of my “working” time to developing my spiritual blog has been an interesting journey.  Given that my passion is learning about and participating with all different types of energy work I couldn’t be more happy with my decision.  However, the practical side of this career change has had me asking a lot of tough questions of myself.  Why would I leave a six figure income in order to devote my time to share my advice and knowledge with people that are looking for answers about the “spiritual” world?

I’ll tell you, what I’ve been telling myself, “Yes, Lisa, the money you made at the hedge fund would be extremely nice to have in the bank account, or to spend on more “stuff” for the house, or to put away for retirement or for the kids’ upcoming college funds. But the truth of the matter is you don’t NEED more money. You don’t NEED to spend more time helping a rich company help rich people become more rich. You do have a limited time here on earth and if you don’t start doing what you LOVE and what makes you HAPPY then what is the point or your life anyway!?”

After I hear myself say these words to me, a few times a week, I stop fretting over the lack of my bi-weekly check and start connecting with the wonderful souls that read my blog and I feel JOY and LOVE and know that my life is going to make a bigger impact and that at the end of the day I am HAPPY!

This morning I had a 10 o’clock appointment with a certified hypnotherapist to undergo a past life regression.  As I stated in my Art of Living Happy – Finding Your Passion blog from 6/22/2010 I have a passion for energy work of any type – which includes past life regression.  Being a certified Past Life Coach it’s always refreshing to work with another professional in my field to gain insight from their skill and technique, as well as the fact that it is quite challenging to take your self on your own past life journey.

Past Life regression is an amazing therapeutic tool used to gain clarity with any issue you may be dealing with in your current life.  The process is similar to talk therapy, however; after discussing the problems you are grappling with, the therapist will encourage you to get completely comfortable and then gently talk you into a light trance.  For example; “OK, let’s take some deep breaths.  Inhaaaaale, good – now exxxxxxhale, excellent.  Allow your head to feel heavy and melt into the back of the chair…  now relax the muscles around your eyes and checks.  That’s great.  Taking another deep breath, allow the muscles around your mouth to relax.  Just writing these words make me feel relaxed and ready to explore a past life.

After you are fully relaxed you may be guided by the therapist to a door, a tunnel or over a bridge.  There are endless ideas as to how to transition to a past life.  Once you walk through the door or tunnel or over the bridge you have arrived to a past life.  It’s really quite magical!  You then have a chance to explore this lifetime and discover what possible events occurred in the past which may be affecting your present day life.  Being brought into a light trance also allows, quite easily, the release of pain or blockages that may be lodged in your cellular memory.

If you are interested in learning more about Past Lives, I highly recommend Denise Linn’s book:  Past Lives, Present Miracles

I’ve read several books about ‘finding your passion‘.  I have taken many courses that will ‘uncover my true life’s purpose‘.  It seems like it shouldn’t be that difficult to figure out what I am passionate about, should it?  I love having massages, getting my nails done and adore having my head shampooed at the salon.  I was thinking that maybe one of these activities was my passion – but no, it turns out that I just love being pampered – don’t you?

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Then it suddenly hit me, my passion is the journey of finding my passion and sharing my path with others to help them to find their passion!  I love to read about angels, psychics, healers, shamanism, Feng Shui as well as other types of energy work  – I have been perusing self-help/new age book store shelves and library shelves for the past thirty years. Now that’s passion!  I also love to attend seminars and programs that help me find out more about myself and others.  Two years ago, I went to California from Connecticut to study with Denise Linn, a best-selling author and healer, where I learned all about Soul Coaching and Past Life Coaching.  It was one of the most amazing experiences in my life!

Now that I’ve quit my hedge fund accounting job, I’m eager to share all that I’ve learned over the past thirty years.  Like I’ve said before, I don’t have all the answers, and I’m not going to tell you what to think or what to believe – but I am happy to share my knowledge with you.

In closing, I wanted to comment on the NEW (as of 6/21/2010) company sponsor of my website.   I have been blessed to have Hay House, which is the international leader in inspirational, transformational, and self-help publishing, agree to advertise on my site.  They also run Hay House Radio – which is an amazing collection of talented people who share their passion each and every day on their radio show.  I’d love for you to check out their website by clicking on one of the posted banners.  In blogs to come, I’ll be reviewing books and sharing advice about different events that Hay House may be offering.  Now, time for a massage – ahhhhhh……